A common question I get when meeting with new clients is “How does coaching work?” one even said “How do I make sure I do it right?”.

I just want to reassure you right now - you can’t do it wrong!

My coaching approach is holistic, and trauma informed, acknowledging patriarchal challenges and helping my clients work towards an authentic life for themselves so they can thrive in their joy. That’s a whole lot of buzz words, let’s boil it down to this: you and I will talk, we’ll identify what you want your life to feel like, what you want to achieve, who you want to be. Then we will delve into the steps we need to take and the limiting beliefs we need to shed in order to get there.

That may include digging into some heavy topics, beliefs that were imposed upon you, traumatic events that informed your perspective of life. Internalized lies that have kept you trapped or stuck. I will help you through all of these with compassion and care - but I will also challenge you to confront yourself and ask you such questions as “WHY do you believe that? Is it true? Is it helpful or harmful?”.
If it doesn’t serve you or better your life, we’re getting rid of it. My approach is entirely tailored to you and what YOU need.

For instance, if you were questioning your gender and wanted to explore that space, we can work towards identifying who you see yourself as in your core and how we can make your external life match that as much as we can.
Notice I didn’t say anything about passing or “looking [gender] enough”, we are doing this for YOU, not for anyone else. We aren’t trading one societal expectation for another. We are throwing out the rulebook and writing our own. 

There is no measurement of being trans or queer enough, no Council of Elder Queers judging everyone from on high as to whether they are “doing it right”. There is no correct age to transition. There is no correct way to transition. There is no correct way to express your gender. 

There is no such thing as “too late”. There is still time.

This also applies to my cisgender clients; we are ALL limited by external expectations and we can all benefit from re-centering ourselves in our lives. Let’s pivot from external validation and find internal validation - instead of “what will people think?” we will get to “what will make me feel whole?”. We only get one life, why are we wasting it making other people happy and ourselves miserable? 

Reach out and let’s figure out what living an authentic life looks like for you, and let’s start getting you there as soon as possible.
It’s going to be a journey well worth taking, you just need to take the first step!