Frequently Asked Questions

  • No, I am an LGBTQ or Queer Life Coach. What that means is that I have not spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on an education steeped in patriarchal standards and pathologizing about queer identities. Instead, I have learned the skills of life coaching and counseling combined with my own life experience to provide you with a more grounded and human process.

    I’m not going to diagnose you or label you, I’m going to work with you to help you prioritize what is important to you, and then use that as our guiding star towards the life you’ve dreamed of.

  • My Coaching Approach is this: You are the most important person in your life, despite what any systems or people may tell you - I can help you recenter yourself and figure out what exactly you want to get from your life and how to get it.

    We meet and we talk as two people, no therapist/client dynamic, I ask you some really good questions, we discuss your answers and figure out what beliefs are helping you and which are harming you. Then we work to dismantle the unhelpful beliefs and build your confidence in yourself.

    Sound good? Don’t hesitate - get in touch with me right now! It’s time for you to start living the life you deserve!

  • A transgender person is someone whose gender identity differs to the gender assigned at birth. This includes Non-binary people, gender queer or gender fluid people too - transgender is an umbrella term and then there are more specific labels if you want them.

    I’m a transgender woman, when I was born people thought I was a boy and I was raised as one too. I’m a late bloomer, I realized I was trans when I was 32 and finally had all the information to figure it out for myself - you can read about my personal journey on my Articles page

  • Maybe. The only person who can answer that question is you. I can help you figure out the answer for yourself.

    I will say that questioning your gender is certainly an indicator that you may not be cisgender, get in touch and let’s figure it out together!

  • Absolutely! I can help anyone who identifies or allies with the LGBTQIA+ community. I have personal experience living as a non-binary person for 2 years before my egg fully cracked so I can also help our non-binary and gender-expansive peers - I know how hard it is to find someone who understands those challenges fully.

    Even if I don’t have personal experience in what you’re going through, I will do everything I can to support you, listen, and coach as best as I can.

  • Absolutely! When I realized I was a transgender woman, it was a challenge for my partner and myself to figure out exactly what it meant for us and our relationship. There was a lot of fear and miscommunication, I wish I’d had someone to help get my feelings and words in order at that time.

    Now my wife and I have an incredibly fulfilling relationship, especially as I am living as my authentic self, I’m able to love both of us fully.

    A change in gender does not have to be the death of a relationship - but it does require some really honest communication and vulnerability. I can provide a safe space for you to ask ANY question you may have, free of judgement, and help you figure out the best way to communicate your needs and concerns with your partner in a loving way.

  • Yes and no, I’m most comfortable working with clients who are over the age of 13; unless referred to me by a physician. I can however support YOU as a parent with any questions you may have, support, or guidance.

    It's important to be gentle with yourself during this journey. Remember, seeking support is a sign of strength, and I am here to provide guidance as you navigate your path toward self-acceptance and personal growth.

  • Labels are descriptions, not prescriptions. Life and humans are messy, who we are and what we do changes all the time. There is no overseeing committee of LGBTQIA+ elders surveilling you to make sure you’re doing it ‘right’. There’s only what’s right for you. I can help you figure out what it all means.

  • Anyone who is looking for change in their lives and needs some guidance on how to recenter themselves in their lives!

    I’m not limited by geography or licensing so I can help anyone, anywhere!

  • I’m originally from New Zealand, where we call ourselves Kiwis after our national symbol, the Kiwi bird. In NZ we only ever call the fruit a Kiwifruit. I’m a Kiwi, I’m a ‘fruit’ (reclaiming a slur), and I’m a coach - hence Kiwifruit Coaching.

    (The best jokes are the ones you have to explain, right??)

  • Kiwifruit Coaching is a safe space for you to be yourself - and figure out who exactly you are. My business name is neutral enough for that reason, and all of your communication with me is kept secure and confidential.

    I promise utmost discretion and privacy, when you sign up for my services you will sign a Confidentiality and Liability Waiver that legally binds both parties to confidentiality.

    I do not keep notes on our sessions for your safety and privacy. I have an insanely good memory so don’t be surprised if I remember names of random people you’ve only mentioned once.

  • My rate is $120.00 USD per hour, if you are unable to afford that much regularly, please still reach out to me, I may be able to help on a sliding scale depending on my availability.

  • First, send me a message through my website where I will coordinate a meeting time with you via email. I’ll send a link for a secure online video platform meeting room.

    We’ll meet for 15 minutes, obligation-free, to make sure we’re on the same page and can work together.

    Ongoing Coaching can look very different depending on your needs - for some it looks like ongoing work through past traumas to work towards a brighter future, for others it may be a few sessions to get unstuck and figure out how to tackle a goal together. Whatever you need, I am happy to hold space for you and help you thrive.

    When we meet for our regular sessions, we’re going to really drill down into who you are and what is important to you as a person - and make sure we can make changes in your life, so you are making progress towards being who you really want to be. Life coaches will put a big emphasis on goal setting, but there’s no point setting goals if you don’t understand why you want to achieve them, or if they’re even the right goals for your authentic self. These are the hard questions we can figure out the answers to, together!

    You’ll receive a payment link after each session, I expect payment within 48 hours of receiving that link, unless we’ve discussed otherwise. My checkout will give the option to pay a tip, there is no obligation to tip me, that is ONLY if you want to support my ability to help those less financially stable with cheaper appointments. Please only do so if you are financially comfortable yourself.

    In between appointments, I am available via email for any quick questions or if you want to send me something to read prior to our next session, within reason.

  • No worries, life happens! Let me know with as much warning as possible (at least 24 hours please but I understand in an emergency), any time through email.

    If you don’t let me know that you won’t be attending, and I don’t hear from you within 20 minutes after our agreed start time, it will be considered a No-Show, our appointment will be cancelled, and I will send you an invoice for a $35 no show fee.

  • At this stage my practice is purely online, though I do dream of having a physical location one day.

    This does mean I’m not limited by geography and I’m happy to assist clients from all over the world!

  • Absolutely! In my own personal experience, I didn’t have the knowledge to figure it out myself until I was 32. I just simply didn’t have the resources growing up in New Zealand. I knew there was something different about me, I just didn’t have the words.

    People can figure out their gender at any age, and it’s never too late to be happy in your identity. There is still time.